Ways Men Trick You Into Dates

[caption id="attachment_833012" align="alignleft" width="1068"] Bigstockphoto.com/lovely african american couple using laptop in living room[/caption] It’s rather pathetic when men choose to trick a woman into going on a date with them rather than simply saying, “I want to take you out on a date.” But, some men aren’t brave enough to face the consequences of putting their true desires out there. They can’t handle rejection so, instead of facing it, they try to sneak their way into acceptance. It’s very frustrating for women because the truth is, a lot of men who trick us into dates are men we could’ve been romantically interested in. But the mere fact that they weren’t confident enough to say they wanted a date is a huge turn-off. So take that as a tip, gentlemen: if you’re going to trick a woman into a date, you may ruin your chances of ever having a real date with her. Here are ways we’ve all been tricked into a date with a man. [caption id="attachment_698604" align="alignleft" width="418"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Going from a group to a solo hang

He claims it will be a group from work or a bunch of people you’ll love to meet. When you arrive at the bar, everyone seems to have gotten busy, had to cancel, or disappeared. How convenient. Suddenly, you’re on a date when you never signed up for a one-on-one interaction.             [caption id="attachment_220080" align="alignleft" width="500"] Shutterstock.com[/caption]

Posing as a career ally

Ah yes—the guy who says he can help you on that project or team up with you so you both look better to the boss. He wants to come over late at night so you two can brainstorm ways to be put on the new, desirable project at work. Before you know it, he comes over not with a laptop and files, but with a bottle of wine and takeout because you both could “Use a break.”       [caption id="attachment_702372" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Posing as a career mentor

This one is actually pretty disgraceful—the man who pretends he is going to mentor you in your career. He may be your boss, your superior in some way, or just a well-respected authority in your industry. He’ll pretend he’s going to mentor you, introduce you to important contacts and show you the ropes, but he slyly starts to try to seduce you.             [caption id="attachment_703765" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]

Pretending it’s about the hobby

Some men will pretend they just really need someone else to train for marathons with, or go to silent movies with, or do whatever common interest you’ve mentioned with. Of course, once they get you there, they start making flirtatious comments, putting their hand on your lower back, and making it very clear that this was not about having a companion for the vintage car show.           [caption id="attachment_702384" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Saying they need your career help

This technique is a bit offensive because, when someone comes to you and asks for your career help, you’re genuinely flattered! You feel really good about your work! So when it turns out this guy just wanted to hit on you, and wasn’t looking for your career advice, you go from feeling honored to feeling objectified.             [caption id="attachment_697899" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Seeking your dating advice

Perhaps one of the slimiest tricks of all is pretending to want dating advice to get a date. You’ve probably ended up out to drinks with a guy who asked you there because he said he could really use your advice on how to get another woman, and before you knew it, he was putting his hand on your knee.             [caption id="attachment_614757" align="alignleft" width="420"] Corbis[/caption]

Posing as your friend

Then, of course, there is the long con guy—the one who carries out several platonic hang-outs successfully before revealing his plan. You’ve gotten tacos at a food truck and taken your dogs to the park. But one night, he picks you up for dinner, takes you to an obviously romantic dinner and starts putting the moves on you. He lured you into a sense of safety before pouncing.           [caption id="attachment_620946" align="alignleft" width="500"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Looking for a shoulder to cry on

It’s not fair and it’s not right, but some men will take advantage of a woman’s caring, nurturing nature when trying to date her. One man might claim he just needs a shoulder to cry on about a recent breakup, or some other upsetting event in his life, and in the middle of his most dramatic, tear-jerking speech about the event, he tries to kiss you. What?!     [caption id="attachment_707166" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Asking for shopping advice

It’s hard to resist a request to help a man pick out clothes! Especially since you’re so good at it! But then, of course, that man suggests you grab dinner in the middle of the shopping trip since you’re both hungry. And then he suggests drinks. And then he suggests you go back to his place so he can try on the clothes for you.             [caption id="attachment_705802" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

The old “plus one” trick

The old “I happen to have an extra ticket” or “I get a plus one and it’ll be so boring by myself” trick. Grrr! Men: just tell the woman, “I want you and only you as my date to this because I like you.”               [caption id="attachment_703766" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Offering to help you fix something

You’ve been complaining about your finicky television, the weird sound your car is making or the broken part of your barbecue. So your male coworker offers to come over and fix it—he’ll be in the area anyways, he says. But he arrives with a bunch of food and beer because you, “Have to eat right?” and after fixing your problem, he just won’t leave. Of course, you can’t ask him to, because he fixed your car!           [caption id="attachment_612768" align="alignleft" width="461"] Shutterstock[/caption]

The “You’d love my other female friend”

Some men know that women need other women to approve of a man before they can date him. This could be why a guy who was secretly interested in you told you that you’d hit it off tremendously with his other female friend. Then when the three of you had drinks, he slyly slipped away for a bit so his friend could tell you what a cute couple you’d make and what a great guy he is.         [caption id="attachment_701812" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

Letting you show him the ropes

Who are you to turn down your new neighbor’s request for a tour of all the best cafes? Or your new coworker’s request to sit down for coffee so you can tell him who to stay away from, who to stick with and who to suck up to? You’re just trying to be helpful, but suddenly you’re on a date.               [caption id="attachment_616201" align="alignleft" width="451"] Corbis[/caption]

The fitness buddy

You just mentioned you go running in the park in the morning, or have wanted to sign up for a marathon. Now you suddenly have a weekly set running date with a guy who said he could use a running buddy to keep him motivated.             [caption id="attachment_714110" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

The pet play

You have a dog; he has a dog. Your dogs already go to the same park. Why don’t you just meet up there so you have somebody to talk to? Oh look, he brought coffee for two. And a basket and a blanket. Wait: this is a romantic picnic.

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