“Are you going to cum?” asks your dude of a few months, breaking the momentum of going down on you to rub his neck once again.
“Yea. I’m close.”
“You said that 15 mins ago.”
Sigh.
“You can’t have me down here all day.”
“Ok. So what’s the cutoff time?” you ask.
“Hunh?”
“What’s a decent amount of time that you feel comfortable?” you repeat.
“15 no more than 30 mins.”
“That’s plenty!”
“But you already used up 30,” he says.
“That can’t be right,” you frown.
“You do it all the time.”
The next morning you’re running the numbers through your head. On one hand, 15 minutes for your guy to go down on you seems like a lot. But what about the times when it takes 15 just to get warmed up? Are you supposed to throw in the towel because you’ve hit the 15-minute mark? Even if you push it the extra 15 you still might not cum because of the pressure. Uh oh. Did you make a bum deal? What if you never cum again? The only way to know if this is going to work is by finding out the average cutoff time. For this, you rely on your trusted friends.
You text Girlfriend #1: Hey, how long do you like a guy to go down on you?
Girlfriend: Anything more than 10 minutes is a waste.
You: A waste?
Girlfriend: Yea, by then I probably already came no less than three times so I’mma be ready for some D.
Good God In Heaven! Who cums three times in 10 minutes? Who cums in ten minutes? Apparently, Girlfriend #2 who adds, “10 minutes is all I need. My man knows my body so well.” When you tell her that you’ve been known to go 30, sometimes an hour, she starts laughing.
Girlfriend #2: Well, if you can hold it that long. I know I can’t.
It’s funny because your man’s biggest complaint going down on you is that you hold it. But isn’t that what you’re supposed to do? You could cum in 10 minutes too if you really want to, but why would you? The way you see it, when a guy goes down, that’s your time to kick back and relax. Of course, you wanna cum, but you ain’t sprinting to the finish line.
Male BFF: Oh, so you’re that greedy chick that don’t care that her man’s tongue is about to fall off. I get the job done in less than 10 mins every time. (He brags)
You: 10 minutes?
He explains that it’s not just him, a lot of women aren’t much into oral sex after that. Some aren’t into it at all. He thinks expecting a woman to want you down there forever is the same as thinking she wants to get banged for hours. You agree with him on that. Banging for hours is so young. Who stays wet that long? But what about the fact that some dudes love going down? Is that a myth too?
For that answer you go to your buddy from back in the day that you know loves to go down. At least, that’s all he used to talk about. If he says his limit is 10 minutes too you’re done.
He shoots you back a text…
Old Homie: I don’t have a timer as long as we both in sync. That’s when it’s perfect.
You KNEW it! A man with no time constraints!
2nd text…But a good rule of thumb is that after 10-15 minutes you’ll know if success can be reached or you need to stop.
Okay, so even he has a cutoff.
What have you learned? You seriously need to get it together because ain’t nobody, not even your man, gonna eat you like it’s his job. In fact, he’s been saying that he’d rather not have sex with you at all then have to go down on you after –you thought he was being lazy. In light of this new info you’re going to take the “15-30-minute deal” that your guy offered you and run like hell because it’s a steal!
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